{"id":4454,"date":"2013-12-05T08:19:13","date_gmt":"2013-12-05T01:19:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=4454"},"modified":"2013-12-05T08:19:13","modified_gmt":"2013-12-05T01:19:13","slug":"nguoi-hap-hoi-thuong-nuoi-tiec-dieu-gi-nhat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=4454","title":{"rendered":"NG\u01af\u1edcI H\u1ea4P H\u1ed0I TH\u01af\u1edcNG NU\u1ed0I TI\u1ebeC \u0110I\u1ec0U G\u00cc NH\u1ea4T?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t c\u1ef1u y t\u00e1 chuy\u00ean ch\u0103m s\u00f3c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang c\u1eadn k\u1ec1 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft, \u0111\u00e3 h\u00e9 l\u1ed9 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc nh\u1ea5t khi s\u1eafp ph\u1ea3i t\u1eeb gi\u00e3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Bronnie Ware, n\u1eef y t\u00e1 Anh t\u1eebng l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 xoa d\u1ecbu nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eafp “g\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea5t, xa tr\u1eddi”, cho bi\u1ebft, b\u00e0 v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean khi ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang h\u1ea5p h\u1ed1i c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc nh\u01b0 nhau.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0 Ware k\u1ec3: “C\u00e1c b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 n\u1eb1m ch\u1edd ch\u1ebft v\u00e0 nh\u00ecn chung ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3i qua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u1eddi kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 nhau. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u khi ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ‘\u00e1n t\u1eed’ c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u00e1c cung b\u1eadc c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00e1c nhau: ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf, s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, h\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc, ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn”.<\/p>\n

Trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch nhan \u0111\u1ec1 “The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying: A Life Transformed By The Dearly Departing” c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u00e0 Ware \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed5ng k\u1ebft 5 \u0111i\u1ec1u nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t \u1edf nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang h\u1ea5p h\u1ed1i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0 c\u1ea3, nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

1. Nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m s\u1ed1ng th\u1ef1c v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, thay v\u00ec s\u1ed1ng theo mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a \u0111a ph\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eafp t\u1eeb gi\u00e3 tr\u1ea7n th\u1ebf. B\u00e0 Ware cho r\u1eb1ng, khi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd g\u1ea7n k\u1ebft th\u00fac v\u00e0 h\u1ed3i t\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1ea1i m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh. “H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n th\u1eadm ch\u00ed ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda s\u1ed1 gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ebft khi nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 do h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3”, b\u00e0 Ware nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n

2. Nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3<\/strong><\/p>\n

“\u01af\u1edbc g\u00ec t\u00f4i \u0111\u1eebng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1eadt l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady” l\u00e0 c\u00e2u c\u1eeda mi\u1ec7ng c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1eafp ch\u1ebft. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 vi\u1ec7c t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1eddi tr\u1ebb c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i v\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 t\u1eeb c\u00e1c th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, do nhi\u1ec1u ch\u1ecb em kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 tr\u1ee5 c\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

3. Nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1ef1c<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i k\u00ecm n\u00e9n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef h\u00f2a kh\u00ed v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00f4i khi ph\u1ea3i “\u0111eo m\u1eb7t n\u1ea1” kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n. V\u00ec v\u1eady, khi s\u1eafp “g\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea5t, xa tr\u1eddi”, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1ea5t, h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y cay \u0111\u1eafng v\u00e0 c\u0103m ph\u1eabn v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 k\u00ecm n\u00e9n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

4. Nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1eef li\u00ean l\u1ea1c v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8<\/strong><\/p>\n

Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn ra \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 cho t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y cu\u1ed1i \u0111\u1eddi. Khi s\u1eafp ch\u1ebft, r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec3 vu\u1ed9t m\u1ea5t nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n v\u00e0ng trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m. H\u1ecd nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc s\u00e2u s\u1eafc r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chia s\u1ebb \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

5. Nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn kinh ng\u1ea1c \u1edf nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eafp ch\u1ebft. Cho t\u1edbi t\u1eadn khi ch\u1ebft, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9. “H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t trong nh\u1eefng phong c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 th\u00f3i quen c\u0169. S\u1ef1 v\u1eeba l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi ‘c\u00e1i th\u00e2n quen’ \u0111\u00e3 che ph\u1ee7 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. S\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i thay \u0111\u1ed5i khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, d\u00f9 trong s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m v\u1eabn mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u01b0\u1eddi tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u1ed1c ngh\u1ebfch theo \u00fd m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa”, b\u00e0 War\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

Tu\u1ea5n Anh(Theo Daily Mail)<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t c\u1ef1u y t\u00e1 chuy\u00ean ch\u0103m s\u00f3c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang c\u1eadn k\u1ec1 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft, \u0111\u00e3 h\u00e9 l\u1ed9 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc nh\u1ea5t khi s\u1eafp ph\u1ea3i t\u1eeb gi\u00e3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Bronnie Ware, n\u1eef y t\u00e1 Anh t\u1eebng l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 xoa d\u1ecbu nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eafp “g\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea5t, xa […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4455,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[123],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4454"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4454"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4454\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4456,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4454\/revisions\/4456"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4455"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4454"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4454"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4454"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}