{"id":4457,"date":"2013-12-05T09:05:36","date_gmt":"2013-12-05T02:05:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=4457"},"modified":"2013-12-05T09:05:36","modified_gmt":"2013-12-05T02:05:36","slug":"10-dieu-sai-lam-cua-cha-me-khi-giao-duc-tre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=4457","title":{"rendered":"10 \u0110I\u1ec0U SAI L\u1ea6M C\u1ee6A CHA M\u1eb8 KHI GI\u00c1O D\u1ee4C TR\u1eba…"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>D\u00f9ng roi v\u1ecdt r\u0103n d\u1ea1y, so s\u00e1nh con v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng trang l\u1ee9a, c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i r\u00f5 cho con hi\u1ec3u h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng sai, ki\u1ec7m l\u1eddi khen khi tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t.., c\u00e1ch gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia l\u00e2m l\u00fd khuy\u1ebfn c\u00e1o l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc ‘v\u00e0ng’ khi d\u1ea1y con k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng s\u1ed1ng.<\/strong>
\nV\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c tr\u1ebb trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00f3 h\u01a1n ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. N\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y \u00f4ng b\u00e0 ta v\u1eabn \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng ki\u1ec3u r\u0103n d\u1ea1y “th\u01b0\u01a1ng cho roi cho v\u1ecdt” ho\u1eb7c “cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1eb7t \u0111\u00e2u con ng\u1ed3i \u0111\u00f3” th\u00ec ng\u00e0y n\u00e0y quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p.<\/p>\n

“B\u1edfi tr\u1ebb con ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a ch\u1ec9 quanh qu\u1ea9n trong nh\u00e0, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i giao l\u01b0u v\u1edbi th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. C\u00f2n th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 tr\u1ebb b\u00e2y gi\u1edd th\u00ec kh\u00e1c, ngo\u00e0i gia \u0111\u00ecnh ra, ch\u00fang c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nhi\u1ec1u c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u1edbi th\u00f4ng tin t\u1eeb kh\u1eafp n\u01a1i tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. V\u00ec th\u1ebf c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e1c em c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng mu\u1ed1n t\u1ef1 kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00ec th\u1ebf d\u1ea1y con n\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi, cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi t\u00edch l\u0169y ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u1eebng l\u1ee9a tu\u1ed5i, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n d\u1eady th\u00ec, cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ea7n xem tr\u1ebb nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. M\u1ecdi ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ea7n d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng”,<\/p>\n

Qu\u00e1 c\u01b0ng chi\u1ec1u ho\u1eb7c qu\u00e1 kh\u1eaft nghe trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c tr\u1ebb, c\u1ea3 hai khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng mang l\u1ea1i hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 m\u00e0, cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft dung h\u00f2a ch\u00fang m\u1edbi mong gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i n\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 10 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m m\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 huynh th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i trong c\u00e1ch r\u0103n d\u1ea1y con:<\/p>\n

1. Cho r\u1eb1ng “Th\u01b0\u01a1ng cho roi cho v\u1ecdt”:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt v\u1eady, \u0111\u00f2n roi l\u00e0m cho tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 tinh th\u1ea7n, l\u00e0m ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 m\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9, con c\u00e1i. H\u1ec7 qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho tr\u1ebb tr\u1edf n\u00ean l\u1ef3 l\u1ee3m, v\u00f4 c\u1ea3m, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 sau. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c em c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i th\u00ec t\u1ecf ra chai l\u00ec v\u1edbi h\u00ecnh ph\u1ea1t, s\u1ed1ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n n\u00ean d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb b\u1ea1n x\u1ea5u r\u1ee7 r\u00ea, l\u00f4i k\u00e9o. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 huynh t\u00e2m s\u1ef1, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n d\u00f9ng h\u00ecnh ph\u1ea1t n\u00e0y song v\u1eabn l\u00e0m khi b\u1ecb k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng gi\u1eadn d\u1eef ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

Tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1eafng nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tin, \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp trong suy ngh\u0129 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o. “S\u1eed d\u1ee5ng bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p tr\u1eebng ph\u1ea1t d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m cho tr\u1ebb s\u1ee3, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c cha m\u1eb9 giao nh\u01b0ng trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u1eabn ng\u1ea5m ng\u1ea7m m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i”, b\u00e0 Linh nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn.<\/p>\n

V\u00ec th\u1ebf, thay v\u00ec la m\u1eafng \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp, cha m\u1eb9 n\u00ean b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh l\u1eafng nghe n\u1ed7i ni\u1ec1m, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang l\u00e0m sai th\u00ec c\u1ea7n ch\u1ec9 b\u1ea3o, gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 cho tr\u1ebb hi\u1ec3u \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra, \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 tr\u1ebb \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c m\u00ecnh l\u00e0m l\u00e0 sai tr\u00e1i v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa. Ho\u1eb7c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p tr\u1eebng ph\u1ea1t nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng kh\u00f4ng g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb nh\u1edb l\u00e2u th\u00ec hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t tr\u1eadn “m\u01b0a” roi.<\/p>\n

2. C\u01b0ng chi\u1ec1u con th\u00e1i qu\u00e1:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lan \u0111\u00e3 16 tu\u1ed5i nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn ch\u01b0a bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 g\u1ea5p ch\u0103n m\u1ec1n m\u1ed7i khi ng\u1ee7 d\u1eady, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed vi\u1ec7c thay ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eb7t qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o c\u0169ng m\u1ed9t tay m\u1eb9 l\u00e0m. Ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o c\u0169ng v\u1eady, b\u00e0 Th\u1ee7y (m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a Lan) c\u1eb7m c\u1ee5i lau nh\u00e0, r\u1eeda ch\u00e9n trong khi c\u00f4 con g\u00e1i th\u00ec v\u00f4 t\u01b0 ng\u1ed3i nghe nh\u1ea1c, xem phim m\u1eb7c cho m\u1eb9 n\u00e0i n\u1ec9 ph\u1ee5 gi\u00fap. Nh\u1eefng l\u00fac \u1ea5y b\u00e0 Th\u1ee7y m\u1edbi th\u1ea5y h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch d\u1ea1y con c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 con c\u00e1i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 t\u1eadp s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, bi\u1ebft quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n, cha m\u1eb9 h\u00e3y d\u1ea1y con t\u00ednh t\u1ef1 l\u1eadp ngay t\u1eeb khi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u l\u00ean 3 tu\u1ed5i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn, l\u00e0m m\u1eabu ho\u1eb7c c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi con l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u00e0m h\u1ed9 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 con c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n

3. So s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ho\u1eb7c b\u00eau ri\u1ebfu tr\u1ebb tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ch\u00ec chi\u1ebft nh\u01b0: “d\u1ed1t nh\u01b0 b\u00f2, l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng, \u0111\u1ed3 \u0103n h\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ed3 v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng, m\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng th\u1eb1ng con b\u00e0 N\u0103m” s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1. Ph\u1ee5 huynh c\u1ea7n hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng, tr\u1ebb c\u0169ng c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u00eau x\u1ea5u, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft nh\u1ea5t. Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i ch\u00ec chi\u1ebft, so s\u00e1nh s\u1ebd l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9. \u0110\u00f4i khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec \u0111\u00f9a gi\u1ee1n n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00e0y nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i khi\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng, h\u01b0 h\u1ecfng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m, kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n v\u01b0\u01a1n l\u00ean h\u1ecdc h\u00e0nh, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ee5 gi\u00fap cha m\u1eb9.<\/p>\n

4. Cha m\u1eb9 lu\u00f4n n\u00f3i “c\u1ea5m” m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 ra l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a con:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khi ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n con xem phim “m\u00e1t”, cha m\u1eb9 th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1eafng ch\u1eedi r\u1ed3i c\u1ea5m kh\u00f4ng cho con d\u00f9ng m\u00e1y vi t\u00ednh. Song ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng, tr\u1ebb ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn ti\u1ec7m Internet \u0111\u1ec3 xem. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t Nam, khi m\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u1eadc b\u1ec1 tr\u00ean ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft la ch\u1eedi, \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp con, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng d\u00f9ng l\u1eddi l\u1ebd, ph\u00e2n t\u00edch ph\u1ea3i tr\u00e1i cho \u0111\u00e1m tr\u1ebb th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u b\u1edfi v\u1eabn xem ch\u00fang l\u00e0 “tr\u1ebb ranh kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft g\u00ec”.<\/p>\n

Tr\u1ebb con b\u00e2y gi\u1edd r\u1ea5t th\u00f4ng minh v\u00ec th\u1ebf cha m\u1eb9 n\u00ean h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn, ch\u1ec9 ra cho ch\u00fang hi\u1ec3u \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t, x\u1ea5u ho\u1eb7c n\u00ean hay kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u00e0m b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean ch\u1ec9 ng\u0103n c\u1ea3n, c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n b\u1edfi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf ch\u1ec9 t\u1ea1o \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n cho con n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i, lu\u1ed3n l\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n

5. Thi\u1ebfu quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb:<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00ec c\u01a1m \u00e1o g\u1ea1o ti\u1ec1n, c\u00e1c b\u1eadc l\u00e0m cha m\u1eb9 trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ng\u00e0y nay d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u00edt quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn con c\u00e1i m\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ch\u00fang l\u00e0m g\u00ec, \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u, b\u1edfi vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap vi\u1ec7c, t\u00e0i x\u1ebf ri\u00eang \u0111\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng. M\u1ecdi li\u00ean l\u1ea1c gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9, con c\u00e1i ch\u1ec9 qua email v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i m\u00e0 \u00edt khi nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y m\u1eb7t nhau. Song khi c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n b\u1ea5t tr\u1eafc x\u1ea3y ra, ph\u1ee5 huynh th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u1eafc khe, x\u00e9t n\u00e9t, quy ch\u1ee5p l\u00e0 do l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a con tr\u1ebb khi\u1ebfn c\u00e1c em d\u1ec5 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n

Gi\u1eefa th\u1ebf h\u1ec7, tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 v\u0103n h\u00f3a, t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng, quan ni\u1ec7m s\u1ed1ng\u2026V\u00ec th\u1ebf \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi cha m\u1eb9 ph\u1ea3i d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian quan t\u00e2m, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c h\u1ecfi han con h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1ed7i khi th\u1ea5y tr\u1ebb con thay \u0111\u1ed5i g\u00ec v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd, th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea1ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1eb7t k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 can thi\u1ec7p, gi\u00fap tr\u1ebb v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111ang g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 tr\u1edf n\u00ean qu\u00e1 mu\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n

6. D\u1ea1y con nghe l\u1eddi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch m\u00e1y m\u00f3c:<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p sinh vi\u00ean ch\u00e1n h\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c t\u1ef1 t\u1eed v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng theo n\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 \u00e9p bu\u1ed9c Cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u00f4i khi v\u00ec c\u00e1i t\u00f4i ho\u1eb7c danh v\u1ecdng m\u00e0 b\u1eaft con ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m theo l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng h\u1ec7 l\u1ee5y \u0111\u00e1ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng cho t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai sau n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb.<\/p>\n

V\u00ec trong c\u00e1ch gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 ch\u1ec9 n\u00ean h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn, g\u1ee3i m\u1edf cho con hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, m\u1ea5t, t\u1ed1t x\u1ea5u ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t “con ph\u1ea3i th\u1ebf n\u00e0y, con ph\u1ea3i th\u1ebf kia” \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i sau n\u00e0y c\u00e1c em l\u1edbn l\u00ean s\u1ebd m\u1ea5t \u0111i kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp trong suy ngh\u0129, ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eafm m\u1eaft l\u00e0m theo l\u1eddi cha m\u1eb9. \u0110\u1ebfn khi s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng th\u00e0nh c\u00e1c em tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, ch\u00e1n ch\u01b0\u1eddng, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng d\u1ea1i d\u1ed9t h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. “Sau khi g\u00f3p \u00fd, cha m\u1eb9 h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ebb t\u1ef1 do l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1i g\u00ec ch\u00fang y\u00eau th\u00edch v\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. D\u1eabu cho quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 sai l\u1ea7m th\u00ec c\u0169ng l\u00e0 b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee9a con tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh h\u01a1n”,.<\/p>\n

7. Ki\u1ec7m l\u1eddi khen:<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn, tr\u1ebb c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean khi l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111a ph\u1ea7n cha m\u1eb9 ch\u1ec9 ch\u0103m ch\u0103m m\u1eafng ch\u1eedi nh\u1eefng l\u00fac tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m sai m\u00e0 \u00edt khen khi ch\u00fang l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 l\u1ea7n sau kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ed1t \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

8. “Ch\u1ee5p m\u0169” con:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u em h\u1ecdc sinh k\u1ec3 v\u1edbi chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd r\u1eb1ng, ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n c\u00e1c em v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh l\u00e0m b\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc ly, c\u00e1i ch\u00e9n l\u00e0 y nh\u01b0 r\u1eb1ng c\u1ee9 l\u1ea7n sau c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed3 \u0111\u1ea1c g\u00ec \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c cha m\u1eb9 s\u1ebd quy t\u1ed9i ngay cho em., Ch\u00ednh th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 “\u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ee5ng” n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho tr\u1ebb s\u1ee3 s\u1ec7t, lo l\u1eafng, m\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 tin v\u00ec cho r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh h\u1eadu \u0111\u1eadu, v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng. H\u1ec7 qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ee9ng tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m n\u01a1i tr\u1ebb.<\/p>\n

9. Cha “\u0111\u00e1nh tr\u1ed1ng xu\u00f4i” m\u1eb9 “th\u1ed5i k\u00e8n ng\u01b0\u1ee3c” khi r\u0103n d\u1ea1y con:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anh H\u00f9ng v\u1eeba l\u00ean ti\u1ebfng d\u1ea1y con trai kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i ch\u01a1i khuya, v\u1ee3 l\u1ea1i xen v\u00e0o “\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft g\u00ec m\u00e0 d\u1ea1y n\u00f3, b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng \u0111i \u0111\u1ea5y th\u00f4i”. Nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf khi\u1ebfn b\u00e9 Ly tr\u1edf n\u00ean coi th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng v\u00e2ng l\u1eddi m\u1ed7i khi anh H\u00f9ng l\u00ean ti\u1ebfng d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7.<\/p>\n

Khi ch\u1ec9nh s\u1eeda t\u1eadt x\u1ea5u cho con, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 th\u1ed1ng nh\u1ea5t, c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9. “Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn v\u1edbi nhau c\u00f3 vai tr\u00f2 r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf. \u1ede \u0111\u00e2y, \u0111\u1ec3 con ch\u1eeba b\u1ecf t\u1eadt x\u1ea5u c\u0169ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m g\u01b0\u01a1ng”,<\/p>\n

10. Coi tr\u1ebb l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t “ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn thu nh\u1ecf”:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khi xem con tr\u1ebb nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, cha m\u1eb9 th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 t\u1eadp trung ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1eadn t\u00ecnh h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn tr\u1ebb em bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang sai, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 r\u00f5 cho con bi\u1ebft h\u00e0nh vi m\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec3 thay th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

H\u1ec7 l\u1ee5y c\u1ee7a n\u00e3o tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn cha m\u1eb9 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng khi th\u1ea5y tr\u1ebb v\u1ee5ng v\u1ec1, mau qu\u00ean, hay t\u00e1i ph\u1ea1m l\u1ed7i c\u0169…khi\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f3 chung s\u1ed1ng h\u00f2a thu\u1eadn v\u1edbi nhau. Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ea7n t\u1ea5m g\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e1ng cho con v\u00e0 t\u1eadn t\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 d\u1ea1y t\u1eebng chi ti\u1ebft nh\u1ecf \u0111\u1ec3 con ti\u1ebfp thu v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng ng\u1ea1i l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n

S\u01b0u t\u1ea7m<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

D\u00f9ng roi v\u1ecdt r\u0103n d\u1ea1y, so s\u00e1nh con v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng trang l\u1ee9a, c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i r\u00f5 cho con hi\u1ec3u h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng sai, ki\u1ec7m l\u1eddi khen khi tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t.., c\u00e1ch gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia l\u00e2m l\u00fd khuy\u1ebfn c\u00e1o l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng. Nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc ‘v\u00e0ng’ khi d\u1ea1y […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4458,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[111],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4457"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4457"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4457\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4459,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4457\/revisions\/4459"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4458"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4457"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4457"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4457"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}