{"id":5274,"date":"2014-05-28T16:33:31","date_gmt":"2014-05-28T09:33:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=5274"},"modified":"2014-05-28T16:33:31","modified_gmt":"2014-05-28T09:33:31","slug":"vi-sao-chung-ta-ghen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=5274","title":{"rendered":"V\u00cc SAO CH\u00daNG TA GHEN."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/137.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-5275\" title=\"1\" src=\"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/137.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"269\" height=\"187\" \/><\/a>T\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i k\u00e8m v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng. Ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ebf m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta v\u1eabn n\u00f3i: \u201cGhen tu\u00f4ng l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh.\u201d Tuy nhi\u00ean, th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3. Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 trong l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ea1nh d\u1ea1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 x\u00f3a b\u1ecf s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng ra kh\u1ecfi danh s\u00e1ch c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ghen tu\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o ra b\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, ng\u1ed9t ng\u1ea1t trong quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi, v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea7m t\u01b0\u1edfng. N\u00f3i ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c h\u01a1n, n\u00f3 \u0111e d\u1ecda h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n v\u00ec t\u1ea1o ra nguy c\u01a1 tan v\u1ee1 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 v\u1eady, ghen tu\u00f4ng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng m\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i. S\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thi\u1ebfu tin c\u1eady, kh\u00f4ng y\u00ean t\u00e2m v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng y\u00ean t\u00e2m n\u00e0y xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m thua k\u00e9m v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c nhi\u1ec1u kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3. M\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m thua k\u00e9m n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n<p>Nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qua c\u00e1c ph\u00e2n t\u00edch tr\u00ean, con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng c\u0169ng kh\u00e1 ngo\u1eb1n ngo\u00e8o ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea7n theo \u0111\u1ec3 lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng ra kh\u1ecfi l\u00f2ng m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n<p>\u0110i\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt: Bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 h\u01a1n h\u1eb3n b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c nhi\u1ec1u kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh: gi\u00e0u c\u00f3 h\u01a1n, xinh \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n, duy\u00ean d\u00e1ng h\u01a1n, th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t h\u01a1n, th\u00f4ng minh h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 h\u1ecdc th\u1ee9c h\u01a1n&#8230; ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 nh\u1eefng kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u1ec3 ra. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 sao n\u00e0o? Ch\u00fac m\u1eebng cho h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd n\u1ea3y ra \u00fd ngh\u0129 so s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd. Khi l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u1ea5t b\u1ecf \u0111i m\u1ed9t g\u00e1nh n\u1eb7ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u1eabn th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00e8 n\u1eb7ng xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m thua k\u00e9m. B\u1edfi v\u00ec, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i r\u1eb1ng d\u00f9 \u00edt hay nhi\u1ec1u th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng s\u1eb5n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t, kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, d\u00f9 g\u00ec th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t duy nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng chung s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ho\u1eb7c anh \u1ea5y cho \u0111\u1ebfn su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/p>\n<p>S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt th\u1ee9 hai m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn l\u00e0: B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u giao ti\u1ebfp c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, anh \u1ea5y hay c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n mong \u0111\u1ee3i. V\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf n\u00e0y l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd c\u1ed1 s\u1ee9c ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn n\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, v\u00ec n\u00f3 g\u1ee3i cho h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thua k\u00e9m \u2013 cho d\u00f9 th\u1eadt ra kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. H\u00e3y th\u1eed t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy\u1ec1n ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a s\u1ed1ng tr\u00ean hoang \u0111\u1ea3o v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi to\u00e0n h\u1ea3o theo \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh anh ta hay c\u00f4 ta m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00ec th\u1ebf, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ph\u00e1i. (T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu thu\u1ea7n t\u00fay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec m\u1edd \u00e1m.) N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eb7t ra m\u1ed9t quy \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1ea5t th\u00e0nh v\u0103n gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 l\u00fd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 bi\u1ec7n minh b\u1eb1ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 l\u00fd do n\u00e0o. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ho\u1eb7c anh \u1ea5y. Khi l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, b\u1ea1n th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u201cs\u1edf h\u1eefu\u201d v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u1ea5t trong t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y hay anh \u1ea5y quen bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng c\u00f4 \u1ea5y hay anh \u1ea5y chung s\u1ed1ng su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi n\u00e0y. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0y bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 tin c\u1eady c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m rung \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 bu\u1ed9c ch\u1eb7t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c kh\u00f4ng g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 chia t\u00e1ch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n<p>Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u nhu c\u1ea7u giao ti\u1ebfp kh\u00e1c nhau. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 do c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, ho\u1eb7c do c\u00f9ng s\u1edf th\u00edch, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f9ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00f4i khi ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 v\u00ec c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh th\u00edch h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi nhau. \u0110\u00f4i khi ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 chung, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u giao ti\u1ebfp kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh giao ti\u1ebfp m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ph\u00e1i, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 r\u00f5 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 \u00edch k\u1ef7, thi\u1ebfu tin c\u1eady v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xem l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u1ee9ng x\u1eed kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb9p.<\/p>\n<p>Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u00fang v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n b\u1ecb h\u00e0nh h\u1ea1 b\u1edfi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ghen tu\u00f4ng, b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n ch\u1ec9 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n trong \u00f3c t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang b\u1ea1n. V\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n h\u1ebft, s\u1ef1 tin c\u1eady v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u00fang v\u1ec1 v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u1ed3ng n\u00e0n h\u01a1n khi c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n<p>NGUY\u1ec4N MINH TI\u1ebeN D\u1ecaCH<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>T\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i k\u00e8m v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng. Ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ebf m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta v\u1eabn n\u00f3i: \u201cGhen tu\u00f4ng l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh.\u201d Tuy nhi\u00ean, th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3. 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