{"id":5294,"date":"2014-05-31T15:40:03","date_gmt":"2014-05-31T08:40:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=5294"},"modified":"2014-05-31T15:40:03","modified_gmt":"2014-05-31T08:40:03","slug":"vi-sao-phai-co-chap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/?p=5294","title":{"rendered":"V\u00cc SAO PH\u1ea2I C\u1ed0 CH\u1ea4P"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/141.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-5295\" title=\"1\" src=\"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/141.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"171\" height=\"295\" \/><\/a>Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y, b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft trong ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 qu\u00e1n t\u00ednh m\u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u00edt khi ch\u1ecbu c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc, suy ngh\u0129 xem v\u00ec sao ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t ra l\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta, thay v\u00ec kh\u00e1ch quan h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc xem gi\u1eefa hai \u00fd ki\u1ebfn th\u00ec \u00fd ki\u1ebfn n\u00e0o l\u00e0 h\u1ee3p l\u00fd h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 khi c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u01b0 nhau, ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ebfm khi c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn \u0111\u00fang ngh\u0129a m\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i kh\u00f3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac.<\/p>\n<p>Trong quan h\u1ec7 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u1eabn th\u01b0\u1eddng x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng t\u1ec9nh t\u00e1o nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n ngay t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, s\u1ef1 quen thu\u1ed9c l\u1eabn nhau nhi\u1ec1u khi th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ef1 suy \u0111o\u00e1n v\u00e0 \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eadt cho v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng l\u1eafng nghe \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt ho\u1eb7c l\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u00edt.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 trong quan h\u1ec7 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c anh \u1ea5y hay c\u00f4 \u1ea5y. C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i sau \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, n\u1ebfu \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. C\u00f2n khi m\u1ed9t trong hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p th\u00ec m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch ho\u1eb7c tranh lu\u1eadn ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m cho v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. \u0110i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n n\u00ean l\u00e0m v\u00e0o l\u00fac n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u00e3y t\u1ecf ra bi\u1ebft l\u1eafng nghe, ngay c\u1ea3 khi b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft ch\u1eafc l\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i nghe c\u1ea3. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 th\u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m l\u1eafng d\u1ecbu v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n sau \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn.<\/p>\n<p>S\u1ef1 c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p kh\u00f4ng mang \u0111\u1ebfn cho b\u1ea1n b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec ngo\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c \u0111e d\u1ecda h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n. \u1ede m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u1eb9 nh\u1ea5t, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m hoang ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 \u00edch, thay v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng th\u1eddi gian \u1ea5y cho nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n<p>M\u1ed7i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c th\u1ec3 duy nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 nh\u00ecn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch ri\u00eang, v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c c\u0169ng theo c\u00e1ch ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang ta g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 ra sai l\u1ea7m trong cung c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 \u1ee9ng x\u1eed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. N\u00f3i t\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd v\u00e0 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c \u2013 t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n<p>Khi hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang ta s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng c\u1edfi m\u1edf h\u01a1n, bi\u1ebft l\u1eafng nghe \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 do \u0111\u00f3 b\u1edbt c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n<p>S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u1edbi nhau \u2013 nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 trong quan h\u1ec7 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, khi m\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i va ch\u1ea1m h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng \u2013 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i b\u1ef1c d\u1ecdc, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. T\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng b\u1ef1c d\u1ecdc khi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y hay anh \u1ea5y b\u00e0y t\u1ecf m\u1ed9t \u00fd ki\u1ebfn kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n m\u00ecnh? B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u00fd ki\u1ebfn n\u00e0o s\u1ebd l\u00e0 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn chung c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u1ebfu \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Nh\u01b0ng trong r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1eef quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft s\u1ebd \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n<p>Lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf ho\u1eb7c h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p trong quan h\u1ec7 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i h\u01a1n cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i bao gi\u1edd c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh t\u00edch c\u1ef1c c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eafng nghe. Suy cho c\u00f9ng, t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u1ea5t? V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu th\u1ebf, c\u01a1 may h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn thay v\u00ec l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 cho s\u1ef1 c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p v\u00f4 l\u00fd ph\u00e1 h\u1ecfng \u0111i.<\/p>\n<p>NGUY\u1ec4N MINH TI\u1ebeN D\u1ecaCH<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y, b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft trong ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 qu\u00e1n t\u00ednh m\u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u00edt khi ch\u1ecbu c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc, suy ngh\u0129 xem v\u00ec sao ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5295,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[111],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5294"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5294"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5294\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5296,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5294\/revisions\/5296"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/5295"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5294"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5294"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.yogavocuc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5294"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}